The Means to a Mend

No one likes to fall in love and it end in a deficit. Few people would ever choose to drown in love. However, in this life, struggling through to find the ONE…sometimes it’s hard not to let love in. Sometimes the ocean of love does enter us, and seeps into our hearts. Like the weight of water it can break and shatter our hearts when it enters. This feeling is what happens when you let someone or everything in. You get that feeling when you fall in love hard and seek your all and end all to be filled by she/he. When it comes to love I have heard it is better to walk into love versus falling in love because, when it’s not right you can simply walk out. If you fall in love you run the risk of staying down too long, and not knowing when or how to come back up for air. Not knowing what or who to hold on to. So therefore you are left to drown in love.

Once you allow your heart to take over. You will feel yourself literally sink to the depths, the brinks of what seems to be no return, an abyss! Entrapped by your emotions, you may possibly even feel broken. You can even feel as though you are in complete darkness where no light can be seen. Although dim or dark know that this too shall pass. The pain you are feeling is not the end all, no chance for a great relationship ever synopsis. Remember, just as that darkness of the night always precedes the dawn, know that if you are going through a dark period light and blissful love is sure to follow. As long as you have breath in your body and your heart still beats a beat, know that you will heal and move on, even if it is inconceivable. This is not the end of you but, perhaps an end of what was not meant to be. Know that the depth of that emotional abyss is not the final resting spot on your love journey. Sometimes you have to reach your lowest point, that point where you are faced without a choice but, to move on and rise above all the bullshit! You can choose to stay at the bottom, until you simply drown, or you can gather the pearls and leave behind the pebbles and the swine. It is these very pearls that will make you stronger, more resilient and help you see your worth.

Have faith that you can rise up, and replace the darkness with the light. Transform your weakness and pain into your greatest strength, and to a means of growth, renewal and redemption. Understand that sometimes transformation begins with a fall. So never regret the lesson. I read somewhere that “The ground is where humility lives”. This is when you must seek your inner strength, inner circle and faith to become more aware so that you gain the needed endurance to move on. It is on your way back up that you come back from having seen your own nothingness and seek the hunger for greatness. Know that if you have seen that reality, you have seen much. For the one who is truly deceived and in darkness is the one who only seeks to pleasure her/his own self while simply disregarding others along the way. Deprived is the one who has never witnessed her/his own need for the genuine love of another. Reliant on her/his own self, she/he fails to realize the weight of their actions and how it may compromise others, and everything else in existence.

Look to your faith and your inner strength to bring you back up, for when the heart that you thought was forever damaged will be mended. What was shattered will be whole again. Know that only your belief in the ability that you can, will allow you to do this. Seek your inner strength. Constantly thinking and trying to figure what went wrong will only leave you to spend too much time regretting and feeling ashamed and too broken and crippled with fear to love again. Don’t let the crushing waves of heartbreak prevent you from rising up. You can still rise up and breathe new air, new life for new love can be just around the corner. Regain your sense of self and get back on the love track. Leave the pain behind you and don’t let the pain change you. You have a heart that is beautiful, lovable and desirable for by the right person. Keep these words dear and near and use it as your means to a mend.