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Sunday, June 30, 2013

On the Deficit Side of SHE Versus HE



Has this ever happened to you? Where you ever that HE/SHE?

*HE pursued you for what you thought was a relationship when HE was just rebounding with you.

*HE said he didn't want a serious relationship but, HE got married six month later.

*HE said HE wanted a serious relationship but, HE was already married to someone else.

*HE was with you for over a decade, marriage, kids and all. Yet, HE was never fully committed in his heart.

*HE never wanted anything really. HE was just lonely and simply wanted sex.

*HE couldn't handle your love due to his own insecurities and issues.

*HE was almost too good to be true until his dark secret was revealed.

*HE just stop calling....til this day you still don't know why.

*HE was abusive, controlling, jealous....just all kinds of wrong.

*HE loved you & SHE & her & her too.

*HE was too wounded to ever love you or anyone else for that matter.

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*SHE loved you but, wanted him and her freedom more.

*SHE didn't love you SHE only loved the last thing you did for her.

*SHE was too self-absorbed to love anyone else.

*SHE used you as her rebound only to return back to him

*SHE said you don't do it for her anymore.

*SHE had too many insecurities about herself that she couldn't love anyone else.

*SHE pretended to be someone SHE wasn't then the real SHE showed up.

*SHE didn't know how to relate to HE for she lacked positive role models.

*SHE no longer met your physical needs. Intimacy became a chore for SHE.

*SHE woke up one day and decided that motherhood and marriage was not her deal anymore.

*SHE said you wasn't good enough.

22 comments:

  1. Hi
    Thanks for this post !

    All the instances are very common and can happen in anyone's life at any point of time. So you need to know the ways to deal with it properly.

    Regards

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    1. @ Aime Jones, you are most welcome! Yes each us has been through one these situations or will go through it one day unfortunately. However, you are right. It is all in how you deal with it.

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  2. Hi there!

    Sad but true. Most, if not all, of these things do happen in the real life and these are the things that make a relationship seem very impossible. But I do believe that a relationship can last longer and be a great thing if both parties (he and she) are both honest, loyal and are trying to make the relationship work.

    Thanks for sharing the post.

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    1. @ Josie Richards, Hi there! Yes, these things make relationships nearly impossible to work through. I agree with your relationship recipe for success: 2 parts honesty, 2 parts loyalty, 2 parts making it work at all cost. Thanks for commenting.

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  3. These are all so true, and it's horrible that these things happen but you can always push through it and be stronger as a result. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. @ Jenny. Yes indeed, what does not end you, makes you stronger. Thank you for your comment.

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  5. I have had a little of each as well as I'm sure a few of my ex's can say the same. I think as we grow we learn who we are. I for one took me sometime to get where I am today but because of my insecurities on a number of things it made me react to relationships in a negative way. The outcome being disaster. Until I came to a point in life and realize something was wrong within I needed to fix. I had my own blame to own up on. Life is a lesson worth learning. Some people grow and some people remain the same. Its up to the individual to decide which one they want to be.

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  6. I've absolutely, had a "He" like some of what you mentioned...or THOUGHT I had a he, is probably more like it. And I'm almost certain someone would point me out as one of the afore mentioned "Shes". I agree with what Camii Soul said, life is a whole lot of learning, and re-learning, and when you think you've finally got it, something ELSE switches up in the game! That's why it's important to know and love and accept YOURSELF. Don't be afraid to look within and realize that maybe you could use a little fixing also to help things along..

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    1. So true El Michelle. A little soul searching (like the old saying goes) never hurt nobody! We have all been there or done that at some point. Thanks for sharing!

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  7. You forgot to mention money money money... SHE said you don't have enough money

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    1. Lol! I thought we covered that with: *SHE didn't love you SHE only loved the last thing you did for her. However, we can accept your to the point approach.

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  8. Hi there!

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    CASTING MTV's TRUE LIFE: I CAN'T CUT OFF FROM MY EX

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  9. Yes! My ex-fiance broke up with me 4 months after proposing...he said he wanted to be single, focus on himself and throughout our relationship he despised kids!
    About 6 weeks after breaking up with me, he started a new relationship - with a 36yr(+) old woman, who is still married on paper and has 2 children, young...

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    1. Sorry to hear that you are going through this, Please try not to invest too much time trying to figure out why he did what he did.Why he flipped the script so to speak. We as human beings are not perfect and we make less than perfect decisions. After a storm the sun always comes out.

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  10. I can definitely relate to all He/She lines here. Been to too much effed up relationships it's almost to traumatizing to get in one again. But alas, I fell in love.

    Nice blog by the way, not to spam or anything but I do hope you'd take time to checkout mine as well (uncrackedballs.com) it's all about dating and relationship advice, as well as my stories and experiences as a dating coach.

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    1. I'm happy to hear that you have finally found love. Thank you for the compliment and I enjoyed reading your blog as well by the way. I will revisit and be sure to comment.

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  11. Splendid. Common age long relationship issues which are still begging for answers today.

    Good job you did. Keep it up.

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