HE Confession #2: What SHE Needs to Realize
I was recently invited to join this fascinating group on Facebook called "Honest Announcements". This group is described as a forum for grown, mature members who want to share their life experiences
with others. The topics we often touch on are about love, relationships and oh yes, sex! The moderator states that the average age group is over 30 so therefore the topics are best described as insightful
, thought provoking and brutally honest. I have to say it has definitely been all of the before mentioned. While perusing through I found a "HE" perspective I thought I'd share.
WRITTEN BY A GUY :
Girls need to realize: We guys don't care if you talk to other guys. We don't care if you're friends with other guys. But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it makes us mad. It doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there. We don't care if a guy calls;OR TEXT you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned. Nothing is that important at 2 a.m. That it can't wait till the morning. Also, when we tell you you're pretty/ beautiful/gorgeous/cute/ stunning, we freaking mean it. Don't tell us we're wrong. We'll stop trying to convince you. The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence. Yeah, you can quote me. Don't be mad when we hold the door open. Take Advantage of the mood I'm in. Let us pay for you! don't 'feel bad' We enjoy doing it. It's expected. Smile and say 'thank you. Kiss us when no one's watching. If you kiss us when you know somebody's looking, we'll be more impressed. You don't have to get dressed up for us. If we're going out with you in the first place, you don't have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own. We like you for who you are and not what you are. Honestly, i think a girl looks more beautiful when she's just in her pj's. or my t-shirt and boxers, not all dolled up. Don't take everything we say seriously. Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it. Don't get angry easily. Stop using magazines/media as your bible. Don't talk about how hot Chris Brown, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us. It's boring, and we don't care. You have girlfriends for that. Whatever happened to the word 'handsome'/'beautiful' i'd be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with 'Hey handsome!' instead of 'Hey baby/ stud/cutie/sexy' or whatever else you can think of. On the other hand I'm not sayin I wouldn't like it ether. Girls, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren't being treated right by a guy, don't wait for him to change! Ditch his sorry butt, disgrace to the male population and find someone who will treat you with utter respect Someone who will honor your morals. Someone who will make you smile when you're at your lowest. Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes. Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel. Someone who will stop what they're doing just to look you in the eyes and say 'i love you' and actually mean it. Give the nice guys a chance. Guys re-post this if you agree. Girls re-post this if you think it's cute.. Every Guy who isn't a jerk will agree with this, so we hope that all the girls that read this will re-post this. Life is too short to complain about everything that comes your way so stop and smell the roses in life because you might never have another time to take it, so take your time because they are all different in every way, so take chances in life, if it doesn't work out then fine, there are always more roses to smell.
I was recently invited to join this fascinating group on Facebook called "Honest Announcements". This group is described as a forum for grown, mature members who want to share their life experiences with others. The topics we often touch on are about love, relationships and oh yes, sex! The moderator states that the average age group is over 30 so therefore the topics are best described as insightful, thought provoking and brutally honest. I have to say it has definitely been all of the before mentioned. While perusing through I found a "HE" perspective I thought I'd share.
Wow. So very true about true love, so very true. I really like the writing about what matters to men, what doesn't, what hurts us, what makes us jealous, what doesn't hurt, what we expect, what we give back, how generous, chivalrous true men are, how we are expected to be treated. aah.. Love to read this..
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Hari
http://glint.im
SHE often wear her emotions on her sleeves and are easy to interpret as long as you're in-tuned to understand. HE on the other hand, is more difficult to understand because HE is taught to keep his true feelings bottled up. If only SHE understood, if only.
ReplyDeleteMen also need to understand than women want's only 2 things:
ReplyDelete1. Every woman desires a confident man!
2. Evert woman demands security from a man!
If you can deliver this two things, she is yours.
But not forget also the golden rule: "The Power in a relationship lies with the one who needs it the least."
Best regards,
Byro
http://howtogetmyexbackforgood.com
Great reminder and really most of the same applies for how women view things and what we want. Except, for me and many women, men getting dolled up is awesome and sexy and please do it more.
ReplyDeleteThat is not true if you date someone who is the jealous type...any interaction with a guy will make them mad. Only the mature and confident ones are like what is described above.
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Agree with Soleilwriter above. Girls are emotional creates and act more strongly from a place based on their emotions. Men are logical creators and act more on logic. This is why men have a had time 'understanding' what a woman wants. He can't 'logically' work it out.
ReplyDeleteMen will never understand what women want or need. Yes we are emotional creatures but if you're listening, you'll know where we stand and how we feel.
ReplyDeleteAgreeing with HJ above. Women what a man who is confident and secure in himself. She wants someone who can hold things together when she is in an emotional turmoil. That is the kind of man she is ultimately attracted to.
ReplyDeleteThese things are of course though a two way street... The fact is that if you manage to make your guy feel totally insecure when he is around you, then that really isn't a great basis for a healthy relationship.
ReplyDeleteAs in most things there needs to be a healthy give and take and both parties really need to work hard if its going to be all the vibrant love, sharing and caring that we all want.
Excellent post, I'm especially glad that you mentioned the group Honest Announcements; I'll be checking that out as well as coming back here.
ReplyDeleteIt makes us feel small and ignored if she doesn't introduce you to the guy. The jealousy that arises has to do with losing the status of becoming the alpha male in the situation. The status drops and you feel obliged to challenge it. That's how it works in the animal kingdom. Only us humans can hold ourselves back with reasoning.
ReplyDeleteThe most important thing I got from this article is the statement 'The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence.' I believe this is so true. An emotionally healthy man doesn't want an insecure female who needs constant reassurance.
ReplyDeleteMen will never understand what women want or need. Yes we are emotional creatures but if you're listening, you'll know where we stand and how we feel.
ReplyDeleteThe never ending complexities between the sexes. I'll say stick to what works for you. If you have the time... http://thesuperhub.wordpress.com
ReplyDeleteAwesome article! About time we all realized that we don't need much to get along. Just good manners and compliments that are sincere.
ReplyDeleteAmen brother! I think women have this fantasy guy in their mind who doesn't exist. They need to let the guy love them and let go.
ReplyDeleteI find the article very interesting and thank you for posting. I have an issue with my boyfriend. We love each other very much but he thinks I'm over friendly with other men. Recently he introduced me to a former colleague and as we left I shook his hand and said nice to meet you. I guess I made the mistake of shaking his hand with both of my hands and he flipped out. I'm a social person and yes maybe sometimes I can be over friendly (if I think about it maybe I over stepped my bounds). I need help on how to fix this. I love him very much and would hate to lose him over something like this. Any advice?
ReplyDeleteThis is brilliant! Some lessons in here that I ought to pay attention to :P thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteGood debate here! Well this is a never ending discussion which is mentioned here that men have a different way of thinking that is logical and women have a different way of thinking.
ReplyDeleteBut I think the blog holds its significance for a nice guy showing his feelings and standing for what he thinks is right or wrong.
What I read is 'accept the standards of behavior that I lay out as normal and preferable, your responses are invalid, it will be your fault when things go wrong'.
ReplyDeletewomen should always humble and submit to their beloved husbands,but ladies dont take this the wrong way, Men have Responsibilities
ReplyDelete, like to love and take care of their family.