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Monday, September 7, 2015

SHE Confession # 11: Break Up Etiquette

 I've noticed that sometimes men will take measures to inhibit a woman's emotional response to a breakup which I think is neither appropriate nor fair to the woman. Here's my story, I hope all who have been in this same position will relate and appreciate. I had been dating this guy for about a year and he decided to drop the bomb in the middle of a dinner date at a fine dining restaurant. I quickly realized how he had "choreographed" everything by choosing such a venue so that I would restrain my emotions, and even took additional steps, like picking a table in the middle of the room rather than a more private space. So, I turned the tables on him in a big way. First I ordered the most expensive desserts on the menu, one for each of us. Having a degree in the Theatre Arts, I figured I'd make good use of those skills by staging a dramatic exit complete with a fabricated I exclaimed "I can't believe you've been cheating on me all this time!”  And then I stood up, reached across the table and delivered a hard slap across his face that was heard throughout the room. I had the presence of mind to remove his glasses just before administering the slap so they wouldn't go flying across the room upon impact. (He never did thank me for that) There was complete silence in the immediate aftermath and all you could hear was the sound of my high heels hitting the hardwood floor as I stormed off.  I wonder if he ever ate those desserts I ordered ;-) Stephanie Nguyen

19 comments:

  1. Break ups are never easy. The timing is never right unless it is mutually agreed upon. I have an idea but, not sure why most break ups tend to occur just before a major holiday, anniversary or birthday. It would be ideal if the person doing the breaking took into account the who, what, when, where and why when planning to break away and end things. Only in a perfect world I guess.

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    1. In my experience... If they had to take everything into account before you break up (or in my case confess I'd been hiding something) then you are never gonna go through with it. Because there will always be a reason why you shouldn't do it at that moment

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  2. How incredibly cold and calculated on his part. He sounds like a royal jackass and got precisely what he deserved. What an extraordinary way to handle it on her part, and I have to say that I absolutely love her chutzpah. You go girl! And it takes a true lady to remove a man's glasses just before slapping his face. Love it!!

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  4. He went all that just to break up with you? Well I guess he just showed you his worth, what a 'not' gentlemen

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  5. Hey Stephanie,

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  7. In this case, no matter what was the reason of the break-up,there are just Things You Don’t Need In A Relationship especially being embarrassed in a room full of strangers.

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  11. Hahaha.. What nice slap girl! I love the way you handle it with passion.. :D

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  12. Let yourself mourn. Cry. Punch a pillow. Journal. Surround yourself with friends who listen. The temptation may be to pretend you’re unaffected by the breakup; don’t let pride get in the way of being real. You don’t have to sob at the office, but take some quiet moments to reflect and be honest with yourself. It’s okay to be angry, hurt or humiliated. It’s healthier to express yourself honestly than grow numb.

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  13. This is such a great write-up. Thanks for sharing this.

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  14. It's okay to sit around and feel sorry for yourself for a day or two, but after that, get busy doing something productive. Make your time even more useful by taking up a cause. You just might find a better match if you're performing acts of kindness and generosity.

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  15. When done, distance yourself from your ex, avoid any and all phone calls and take a break from social media. It might even be a good idea to go on vacation, an exciting distraction from what just happened.

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  16. Far too many men and women stay in relationships well past the point that they know they don’t want to be in the relationship any longer. The tendency to stay longer makes sense: Most people don’t want to hurt the other partner. The problem is that your partner has instincts and can probably sense your retreat inside the relationship, so you’re not doing him or her any favors by prolonging your partner’s sadness.

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