Wednesday, April 17, 2013

SHE Confession #5: True Love...Absolute Truth or Myth

True Love...is it real? Does it truly exist? Imaginably, it is easy to assume that it is just a fantasy or myth. Perhaps it is merely something that great fairy-tales are made of. If "True Love" is in fact real, does it ever last or does it simply wear off by some specific time frame? Is it like a momentary phase that is sure to pass and guaranteed to not linger on? Is it more like a grand facade, a huge deceptive web filled with deception? A deceptive, delusional spell that disorientates it’s victims into a distorted reality. Forcing you to wear rose tinted glasses with a rosy outlook in tow. The tail end result are: gross misconceptions, huge arguments, horrid break-ups. and bitter divorces.


This is coming from a person who has waited for what appears to be centuries for "True Love" that is long lasting, with a close resemblance to eternity. I have waited for "True Love" to show up and show out, for "True Love" to show its exquisite and astonishing face. Yet, to no avail…instead I was met with lack luster imposters who tried to mimic and do their best at their rendition of what True Lasting Love should be.

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    1. No. Although possible, I doubt I will find it there.

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  3. I think that others can tell when we are "looking" and it sort of pushes people away. I had a friend who seemed to treat dating like a second job. She worked the circuit hard. But when she finally stopped, love walked in the door.

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  4. Alexis, I definitely agree that others can certainly tell when you are in "Desperately Seeking Susan" mode. Sometimes you can try too hard with unrealistic expectations. The best relationships that were unplanned or expected tend to yield the best results but, there is no exact science to it.

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  6. When we try to hard, we hide our true selves from our potential or current partner. Eventually the cracks will show. It's best to be genuine from the start and be your real self and let them fall in love with the real you.

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    1. I most definitely agree with Michael on being the most genuine self that you can be. This way you know you are loved for you and not the persona many of us can portray.

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  7. I agree with Alexis's comment...true love always hits when you least expect it. Loving this blog - nice job!

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    1. @ Samantha...Thank you commenting and for the lovely compliment.

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    2. but do you choose whom you love or wanna be with?

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  14. Cheers
    . Love is fantastic feeling and the best to rule your life by.
    Early this year my long lasting relation came to an end, it had ended long before but i was blind to see it.
    Then out of nowere and months later i reacquainted an old friend, me and this girl never really bonded but now i discovered a wonderfull,beautifull,funny, educated, fighter,determinded woman. I felt drawned to her but only cause i needed a new friend but over time i couldn´t help but to fall for her. We have so much in comun, from music to world views, even the way we think, its a match and i couldn´t believe that after such a litle while i was meeting someone this perfect i couldn´t be this lucky!! and im not. She, thanks to past relationships, is afraid to commit, afraid to guive her heart away, like me and everyone else she is terrified to get hurt again and in result she has been alone for years and is acostumed to be like that. I adore her,she is perfect in every detail and even her flaws fit her wonderfully and she holds me in the highest regard and im glad she doesn´t percieve me as all the other men but to my own sorrow she doesn´t feel the same way i do. I respect that! we can not force people to love us but i can´t shake the feeling that her fear of pain is holding her back, clouding her judgement, stoping her from embracing happiness and me..i feel like the universe has guiven me a chance and then took it back! as some kind of sick joke!
    I dont wanna get hurt or hurt anyone, thats what i believe in and thats how i keep my heart and my conscience pure but i know not what to do or what to think!
    Why?

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    1. Joe it's hard loving someone that doesn't love you back in same manner. You said it yourself when you said "We can't force people to love us". I wish I had the right words to say that would help. You could continue to be there for her and wait for her walls of past pain to come down. However, that may or may not ever really happen. Only you can truly figure and assess if this love is worth standing the test of time for or are you just chasing a dream of what may never be.

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  15. True love doesn't just appear out of no where you have to have patient and you have to deserve it, stop searching for it one day it will appear when you least expect it and I hope that you find it but it is out there just wait a little longer.

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  16. Love this blog, perfect number of words for a busy browser.
    True love is real or an illusion depending on the individual involved. Sometimes the very actions we take to find true love drives it farther away from us. Beverly Aneta's "You Deserve True Love" is a good book to read if you ever find yourself questioning the existence of True Love.

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  17. True love does exist, great blog... falling in love with the post.hope we all find true love someday somewhere.

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  18. if you truly love someone then you will do what ever it takes to be with them.

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  19. True love exists but needs always work and lots of ENERGY

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