It's been difficult to write about
relationships and my thoughts regarding them for quite some time lately. My
inability to do so wasn't so much so that I had some sort of writer's
block. It's actually quite the opposite. I actually have so much to say or so
much on my mind regarding relationships as a whole. I've been boggled down
with my own personal feelings on the matter that, I have not been able to
funnel through it. I just can't seem to make sense of it all, or where to
begin. Partly being, is that I'm learning to emotionally let go. Holding on to
a certain something or someone has been one of my biggest muse when it comes to
writing about relationships. Letting go of what had been my drug, my main
source of inspiration....my emotional addiction. It was one of the hardest
things I had to do and like with any addiction every new day is an entirely new
struggle. Holding on too long has been a downfall of mine.
I honestly have to say that there are truly many depths of love. You can love people for totally different reasons. However, when love is staring you in the face you truly know it without a doubt. Love makes you want to give even when there is nothing to gain in return. At the same time love can sting when it's not returned in equal or even a remote measure. While love can be so beautiful it can be equally dismal.
For a long time I use to keep my distance from the word love, seeing people together or hearing someone gush about their relationship I would feel my heart automatically tighten up. Love hurts sometimes and I built a wall so high even for me to break it down that alone was a mission so can you imagine another person giving it a go. But time went by I didn't want to feel that hateful rage, it was a burden to walk around with it. Bit by bit I i started pulling bricks down and as time went by I started to accept what true love was all about. As you say rightly there are different types of love, love of a friend, a child, a partner or a family member but it remains love. Love is super deep and while it took me a while to get where I am now I can truly say I had to go through the darkness to really understand the word love.
ReplyDeleteThank you Camii Soul for sharing how you feel about love. I checked out some of your writings and can relate to you on so many levels. Keep writing it's a gift to you just as it's a gift to others.
DeleteNo matter how our love lives have been, the taste of love is always the same; it's always true.
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James Baldwin said it best "Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within"
ReplyDeleteLove is a word so many people take for granted these days. Do many of us truly know what love is or have we ever experienced real, true love? Real love takes work, trust, total commitment, and honesty to achieve.
ReplyDeleteWell said Julia.
DeleteI love the honesty of this piece as I see myself in so many aspects of it. I blog in a similar manner at www.dimplesweet.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteWe always want to connect and relate to others with each post. Thank you for commenting. You have a wonderful blog by the way!
DeleteLetting go and starting over is difficult but living the past can be destructive, life can be hard.
ReplyDeleteI think I can understand that feeling, letting go of something that has been an inspiration to you for a long time but who has also hurt you in so many ways.
ReplyDeleteYes, love hurts but luckily it can also heal.
I have a hard time with this because on a daily basis there is always something to let go of.. It goes back to that old adage.. let go, or be dragged...Thought you might like this for some humor on another perspective.
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Haticus Madd I really like "let go, or be dragged". I have to share that with those who are riding that love fence. Thanks for commenting.
DeleteLove is so complex and deep that I believe we will never really understand it. It can lead to pure joy, to immense sorrow... And there are so many ways to love. i think that's when you feel it but you are not able to explain it... then it's love
ReplyDeleteWell Expressed...Sometimes love is all we have and then there are times when love is all that we can barely handle ..
ReplyDeleteI know exactly what you mean. Kind of like you took the words right out of my mouth. On my own blog I have been having a hard time figuring out what to write about. After reading this post, I know where to start. Just be honest about your thoughts and feelings.
ReplyDeleteLetting go of something or someone has been my hang up as well. Sometimes in order to write clearly we must remove ourselves form the picture all together. Thinking about what other people are struggling with and address those issues in the arena of love.
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Wonderful advice Steven. Thank you for your comment.
DeleteI can totally relate to hanging on to love for too long. That is something I have struggled with as well. Even when I know the right thing is to move on, it is so difficult to let it go. I think just expressing your thoughts even if you can't make sense of them is a great start to writing again.
ReplyDeleteIt can be pretty hard to let go at times, even if you know it's the best thing to do. You're just gotten so used to it that you're afraid to let go. Just have to ask yourself do you keep returning to same person out of habit or out of love? Not easy to decide though.
ReplyDeleteGreat question Nick. Perhaps it's an evenly portioned amount of both habit and love.
DeleteYou say that we need to let go. What if there is nothing to let go, or even hold on to? My point is, what if you really cannot find that special one, or what if there isn't one to begin with, and if so, can we really survive without the unity of a relationship? I don't know. Just curious.
ReplyDeleteYou cannot hold or hold onto something that does not exist in my opinion, at least. Life is is about timing and lessons. Especially when it comes to finding that special someone. Meaning when the time is right it will happen. Most likely it will happen when you least expect it. Hopefully you will have learned enough along the way to recognize them when they present themselves. To answer your question about surviving without the union of another... Of course you can survive. However, it only when we make that special human connection do we really start to feel like we are actually living! Just my thoughts...
DeleteYou probably already know this (or feel it so deep in your bones) but if you want to have an incredible relationship with a man, then getting him to "Love"you just isn't enough . . .
ReplyDeleteWhy?
Because men cheat on women they love.
Men break the hearts of women they really do LOVE every single day . . .
Nope, if you want a man to really commit to you seduce you, chase you, and keep that spark going forever you can't just make him love you, you've got to make him ADDICTED to you . . .
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What Julia said is so true. Love is extremely tough. It takes a lot of effort to work through the constant troubles of a relationship!
ReplyDeleteYes there are many depths of love. Its healthy to have more than one ort of love and not be obsessive about the romantic love.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree that being in a relationship is not quite easy. There are even those times when you think that everything is off balance, out of place, and falling apart. However, if you really love a certain person, you'll do anything to be with him or her.
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Not allowing ourselves to let go of a relationship is somewhat masochistic of us. Because the relationship ended does not discredit it's quality or mean that there's anything wrong with you or the other person. It all comes full circle back to your relationship blueprint and your romantic goals.
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