I often anticipate and invite more participation from our “HE” readers. After all, the whole purpose of this blog is so that we can better understand one another when it comes to relationships. Being that I’m a woman I try my best not to get too wrapped up in giving the “SHE” perspective that, somehow I end up leaving the “HE” perspective wavering in the wind. As I continue to remain active in the “Love Movement” I often come across many fascinating blogs that I cannot just simply pass by without mention.Okay all my “SHEs”, I know many of you are always wondering what‘s going on with “HE”? Why is “HE” behaving the way HE is? If only one knew what “HE” was thinking or feeling about the relationship. Why did "HE" end things the way HE did? Well, I think I have stumbled upon one of the golden secrets of a man’s heart and mentality. Please read below as a "HE" Blogger gives his account on why men often grow cold and shut down at the mere thought of love.
Open Letter: We Confess, We Men Are Afraid of Love
Dear Women:
We hope this letter finds you held securely by the arms of true Love. Love is a beautiful thing. Yet, we hope you realize how difficult it was for the man in your life to fall in Love with you and quite possibly, how difficult it is for him to be in Love with you. Love is difficult for us men. Why? Well, to be honest, Love scares us. We confess it here and now, we men are afraid of Love.
We are especially afraid that we will leap into the abyss of Love first but you will never join us. That we will fall blindly into Love and you will not be there to catch us, to guide us. Most importantly, we fear giving up control. We fear losing ourselves in an emotion we do not fully understand. An emotion that controls us rather than us controlling it.
No man wants to feel like he is falling in Love with you before you are falling in Love with him. And yes, we recognize the hypocrisy of that statement. We still stand by it. We recognize that we are asking you to sacrifice emotionally before us, for us, even if we have not fully demonstrated that you should do so beforehand. cont. here
This letter was so moving that I could'nt wait for anyone to comment in order to expand on it further. One follower on the blog said he thought this was the best good bye letter for someone who was afraid to end the relationship. "HE" recommended that the last paragraph be highlighted and then sent off. That section reads like this:
ReplyDeleteOne day, even if not today, we will be the men you need. Do not judge us all by the selfish weakness of a few. We will Love you. It may not be in the manner you dreamed but there will not be a doubt in your mind that it is Love. Scared as we are, the real men among us look forward to that day. In the meantime, as much as it may hurt, it is selfish for any of us to ask you to wait. So, if it means passing one of us by for another who has already overcome his fear, we encourage you to seek him and obtain the Love that you deserve when you are ready, not when it is convenient for us. In fact, we ask that you never settle for anything less. We wouldn’t.
Sincerely,
The Men
What a good letter. There have been many a situations when I wonder what is going on in a guys head.
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@ Sinatraluver- So true, what many of us women would give in order to figure that one out.
ReplyDeleteWHY CANT MY LIGHTSKINNED LIGHTEYED MIRROR LADY SAY SOMETHING LIKE THIS TO ME...
ReplyDelete"He is
butterscotch tangerine skinned, with a scent of a baby
You can't help but want to absorb him deep in your skin
He has lips that make your tongue want to linger longer
He has a skin that your hands want to caress always
A smile that warms your heart
Laughter that draws you into his soul
Tender hands full of promises
With captivating hazel eyes, that takes you into an endless world
Strong yet welcoming jaws that you can't help but want
To trace you fingers along
He is mesmerizing
He is a world I would like to lose myself in"